{"id":4521,"date":"2019-01-30T00:55:34","date_gmt":"2019-01-29T23:55:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/?p=4521"},"modified":"2019-01-30T00:55:36","modified_gmt":"2019-01-29T23:55:36","slug":"i-have-a-new-year-resolution-and-ill-stick-to-it-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/i-have-a-new-year-resolution-and-ill-stick-to-it-2\/","title":{"rendered":"I Have a New Year Resolution and I\u2019ll Stick to it!"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

An interview with Karolina Hudowicz, teal management expert, trainer, coach ACC ICF, strategic and MindSonar\u00ae consultant, BOD Mameber in ICF Poland Chapter, on New Year resolutions and their implementation.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why do we always try to change and improve something in our life at the end of the year? What are Christmas & New Year resolutions about?<\/strong>
Christmas & New Year resolution is a\u00a0dream.
It often happens we want to get rid of a\u00a0problem or that what disturbs us like a\u00a0stone in a\u00a0shoe. Clients often start coaching sessions with a\u00a0question: \u2018I\u00a0have a\u00a0problem and I\u00a0want to get rid of it\u201d or \u201eI\u00a0don\u2019t want to do it\u201d. Sometimes, they just want\u00a0 to improve their lives\u2026
\u201eI\u00a0will not eat sweets\u201d, I\u00a0will not smoke\u201d, \u201eI\u00a0will not work in overtime\u201d, \u201eI\u00a0will not get exploited\u201d and so on\u2026 We have our resolutions and we want to keep to it<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We make conclusions as well\u2026<\/strong>
It happens the Christmas time and the end of the year often is often the time of reflection. We summarise our achievements and successes, what we managed to reach, but also we think about our failures and what and why went wrong.
Before and during Christmas and New Year\u2019s Eve we usually wish each other a\u00a0better future in the next year, healthier, richer, full of personal and professional successes and so on. We wonder also why we forgot of last year resolutions or we recalled them after some time, yet we didn\u2019t manage to approach their realisation and another year has just passed<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Exactly. Why is it so?!<\/strong>
Because it looks this way that, first, Christmas time passes by, then New Year\u2019s Eve party, the carnival approaches its end, then Easter\u2026and we keep\u00a0 working late, we grumble about our boss, who takes advantage of us at work, then we eat sweets and smoke cigarettes in order to bear all that situation\u2026
We think about changes and resolutions in terms: \u201eWhy I\u00a0cannot do anything, not to change anything and to live like I\u00a0dreamt about?\u201d When we did all these resolutions we were so excited and we believed so much changes were possible and so easy to do! What is wrong with us? Actually, everything is fine about us. We are able to change what we want and to live like we want.
Well, to turn our resolutions or dreams into targets, one has to modify it slightly<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How?<\/strong>
Some people say our brain does not understand negation. If we say somebody not to think or to do something, then most probably is they will do it, or at least will think about it, like for instance \u201edo not think now about beautiful, fashionable heels\u201d means surely we have just thought about it. In other words, if we say we won\u2019t smoke, it means we will, we will light a\u00a0cigarette. As our brain does not understand the word \u201eno\u201d, we should formulate our resolutions somehow differently.
According to assumptions of coaching, it is important to set up goals in a\u00a0positive form \u2013 what we want or what we want to achieve instead of what we don\u2019t want. Instead of: \u201eI\u00a0will not eat sweets\u201d let us say rather: \u201eI\u00a0want to eat helahty meals, I\u00a0want to eat fruit and vegetables\u201d, or instead of \u201eI\u00a0will not be exploited anymore\u201d let us use \u201eI\u00a0will take care of myself\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So how to define targets?<\/strong>
As above mentioned examples demonstrate positively defined resolution is already the first step to let the resolution become an objective. Of course, this objective must be desired by us and not by someone who always tells us we eat unhealthy or even worse \u2013 that we are fat.
Before clients define their objectives, at least, those who want to achieve them and know, why they desire them and they feel these are their objectives, some time passes. Formulation of our goals, however, \u2013 as precisely as possible, with minor, apparently irrelevant details \u2013 is the most important step in the process of achieving it<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you think Christmas and New Year\u2019s Eve is a\u00a0good moment to determine targets?<\/strong>
Yes, it can be a\u00a0good moment to decide about targets for the coming year, using one of popular methods of determining goals as SMART<\/strong> or even better SMARTER<\/strong> method. It says the goal should be:
S<\/strong> (Specific), M<\/strong> (Measurable), A<\/strong>\u00a0(Achievable), R<\/strong> (Relevant), T<\/strong> (Trackable), E<\/strong> (Exciting), R<\/strong> (Recorded)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to achieve it?<\/strong>
It is worth making some powerful questions, like those from GROW structure of John Whitmore:
\u2022 What exactly do we want to achieve?
\u2022 When?
\u2022 What obstacles can we meet?
\u2022 Who should know about all of it?
\u2022 What support do we need?
\u2022 How and when do we get this support?
\u2022 What other matters can be taken into consideration?
Sole answers to these questions is not the end.
It is important to specify own determination on the scale from 1 to 10.
Writing down so determined resolutions, aims, stages, little steps may be the beginning of the process and not such a\u00a0painful revolution when dealing with consuming unlimited amount of sweets, quitting smoking or staying late at work.
Perhaps coming Christmas \u2013 using these few hints \u2013 we will conceive a\u00a0fantastic plan and strategy and our up to date resolutions will become real targets to be achieved the next year? I\u00a0wish that, wholeheartedly, to readers of WHY Story!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And you, Karolina, do you have any New Year resolutions?<\/strong>
Surely, I\u00a0have my detailed plan and I\u00a0know how and when to execute it! <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

An interview with Karolina Hudowicz, teal management expert, trainer, coach ACC ICF, strategic and MindSonar\u00ae consultant, BOD Mameber in ICF Poland Chapter, on New Year resolutions and their implementation. Why do we always try to change and improve something in our life at the end of the year? What are Christmas & New Year resolutions […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":4523,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[696,737,758,685],"tags":[1020,1019,1021,1004],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4521"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4521"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4521\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4522,"href":"https:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4521\/revisions\/4522"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/4523"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4521"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4521"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/whystory.pl\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4521"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}